I’ve been away for a week, enjoying some rest and relaxation in the sunshine. While I was away I was thinking, I must remember this feeling when I get back home!
This got me thinking about making memories. We make memories all the time, sometimes they are good and sometimes they are not. Sometimes those memories can be so bad that they can lead to us being scared of similar things.
Let me explain. My Dad loved sailing. We used to go on holiday to Cornwall and he used to play around in a small sailing boat that he had. One year, when I was about 6, he decided that it was time that I experienced the joys of sailing. I remember going out in the boat with Mum and Dad. I remember being overwhelmed with fear about being in this boat. It wobbled an awful lot. I screamed, I cried, I was petrified. I wasn’t expecting this because most of my sisters and brothers loved sailing. I’m guessing Dad wasn’t expecting it either.
So now, with that memory made, I have never been in a sailing boat since. The thought of it fills me with panic. And that’s because my brain has made a link with the boat and me feeling petrified. My brain wants to protect me from that feeling.
Now, it’s easy for me to carry on with my life quite happily without having to go anywhere near a sailing boat again. But sometimes those memories are made and they can stop people from doing what they need to do. This can lead to fear, anxiety, increased stress and even phobias.
For example, if you had a bad experience with performing a play at school, this could lead to a fear of public speaking. Your new dream career could mean that you need to deliver presentations to your colleagues. Do you go for the new job or not??
This is where therapy can help. I work with lots of people to help them to change those old memories so that they can live their live free from that old fear.
If there is something that is holding you back, stopping you from being the best version of yourself, contact me to see how we can work together to change this.
The first step is taking one, who knows what you can achieve after that.